Buckle up, this will be a long one. I’ve been journaling daily since my start weight 2 weeks ago, and I should probably just paste it all here so I can put this energy out into the ether instead of just my own personal rambling collective.
2022.01.18
Well, crap. Look how long it’s been. And look HOW MUCH HAS HAPPENED.
I lost my beloved best cat friend Pickles to a maniac speeding driver who didn’t even bother to slow down or stop after he hit him… I have been mourning for 3 months and the pain is still fresh every time I see his pictures. Due to this loss, Dustin and I decided enough was enough, we HAD to move now, finally buy a house come hell or high water. Requirement #1: a safe neighborhood nowhere near main roads.
AND WE DID. We are finally, FINALLY homeowners, after almost 17 years of renting together.
Bullet points of catch-up:
- Closing day and meeting sellers - the title lawyer essentially had to shut us up because we were so chatty, learned about the neighborhood and how it’s a close community, that we would meet Rhonda first, who is their sister in-law, that people have river parties on boats and bonfires and fireworks. We got the KEYS and later had to figure out what went where! There are so many! Then we went to the house with Naia, where we stood in the backyard, just looked at it and hugged tearfully.
- Mad rush to pull up old gross carpet, tub, granny cabinet before moving day, paid rent for January just in case.
- Naia laid down on the old carpet and got terrible hives and swelling, necessitating a trip to Urgent Care where she received a Hulk sized dose of Benadryl and a steroid shot in the ass.
- Pickup and installation of new flooring over the course of 2 weeks, then got all my friend’s stuff who moved to CA to become a Buddhist nun (Bhikkhuni), including a Sleep Number bed which we promptly sold for WAY too little money simply to get it the fuck out of the house (SO UNCOMFORTABLE and HUGE). The guy almost didn’t buy it (ad for $325) because I didn’t want to sell the base with it, and I panicked and said I’d take $100. Facepalm.
- Dustin’s back began to tweak- too much floor work. Spasms.
- I had a mental breakdown from the overwhelm of SO MUCH TO DO. 9 High street was just FULL of shit and I couldn’t even begin with some of the piles. I’d pick up one object and just freeze: do we need this now or should I pack it? Where should I pack it? Nothing is organized!!
- Somehow we dove in, set a move in date of January 8th, and rented a U-Haul.
- Then NAIA GOT COVID.
- Dustin and I STILL moved the entire house over the weekend, Naia was quarantined for 10+ days, and I stayed home for 11 days in the new house with Naia and Dustin, giving us time to “fully” move in and clean out 9 High St., where I cred because that’s 6 years of my life and energy, and I feel like I’m abandoning it (but mostly I cried because I am leaving all Pickles’ energy behind).
- Dustin and I fought like absolute rabid raccoons, we are terrible at moving together and were both on a hair’s edge.
- Pickup and installation of new bathtub, Dustin learns plumbing as he goes
- I get sick, not COVID but a raging head cold, so does Dustin whose back is so bad from moving and slipping on the ice that he is prescribed flexeril and Oxys to combat the pain, he walks like a centenarian
- It doesn’t help much
- Naia recovers, but is now incredibly depressed, sleeps too much, light headed all the time, and anxious, sleeps on couch to get out of the room
- Somehow D and I never get the Vid
- Dustin and I finally have a moment to talk, he apologizes profusely and is afraid he is pushing me away
- I have a NINE HOUR DREAM that he is actually the one leaving me, wants nothing to do with me, so I reassess whether my actions are making him want out (“You don’t feel anything leaving High Street?” “No, I emotionally checked out after Brad raised our rent”). It was such a long, vivid dream. His coworkers were rallying behind him, ostracizing me, telling me my husband is so hot and I don’t treat him right. Woke up in a panic several times, touched his face to be sure he was still there.
- We cuddle, reconnect.
- I finally take a walk around the neighborhood and get my bearings a bit; this neighborhood reminds me so much of a campground, it’s crazy. Blue collar, all styles of homes from shanties to nicer larger houses, river access EVERYWHERE. This walk tripped me out; by the time I got back home I was in an alternate reality. After being just inside it or driving to it for so long, it was like unlocking a major level on the map.
- Now I need to find Naia a therapist, and fast. She’s Really Not doing well mentally. She needs help.
- (Edit- today is day 2 back at school, she’s coming into it and I can see the routine is a huge help. She walks to her bus stop now! 10 minutes each way! Might hold off on the therapist thing until the weirdness of the new home wears off).
- Dustin and I drank every single day for a solid month, slowly gained too much weight to function properly…
Which brings us to today, January 18th, FINALLY day 1 of the fast I’d been planning to start on the 3rd. Granted, this was an unforeseeable major life event, but nevertheless I am so happy today to finally start this thing.
Starting weight: 194.8 (Sunday)
Today’s starting weight and Day 1 fasting: 193 (Tuesday).
Dustin is at 233.
I am so happy to be fasting again. My body has been screaming for a break. Now that we have a dishwasher, it’s simple to juice in the mornings together (he is drinking juice for breakfast and lunch, like before the wedding), throw the bits in the washer, and have it ready for the next day’s juicing. It takes us about 45 minutes to do the 5 juices we need for the day.
9 am. First pang of hunger.
11 am. Ass mouth commences. A wee groggy. Chugging water, putting off juice #1.
1 pm. Time for my first juice.
3 pm. Want another one, will hold off. Feeling a bit loopy, hard to form coherent thoughts. Frequent breaks; the cot in the back room is WAY too comfortable.
4 pm. Second juice.
4:30 pm. The drive home is RELAXING. So strange. My commute usually stresses me out. It’s a bit shorter now, but I think it’s because alcohol is COMPLETELY 100% off the table that I have no cravings. In a surprisingly good mood.
6 pm. Third juice. Doing remarkably well. Very little hunger. Dustin has pizza and I’m not even jealous.
7 pm. Bedtime and Tiktoks because our couch is uncomfortable. Asleep by 9.
2022.01.19
Day 2
190.2
Up at 5:30 for juicing, jumped right into it. Experiencing added hunger this morning, but nothing crazy. Headaches are starting to poke me. Drank 32 oz of water before 11 am. Thinking about adding my electrolytes back in.
12:30 pm. First juice. My eyes hurt, lol. Need to research again. Reading others’ journeys helps.
3:30 pm. Second juice. Going back to Refuge Recovery and continuing my Truth Inventories. I did the first one in September, then did ok with the booze for a little while, then… didn’t. I am finishing this task now. Rereading the book. Going to find a way to meditate again.
2022.01.20
Day 3
188.2
Yep. Feels like a day 3. Brain fog, exhaustion, gnawing hunger, headaches, eyeballs still hurt. Coming into it good now. Can barely slog through work. 4 juices today instead of 3.
3:15 pm. Weirdest thing just happened. I just sort of popped out of the fog bubble I was in. Cleared right up, have more energy, sunnier outlook. Huh.
2022.01.21
Day 4
Didn’t weigh in
Had another juice early in the morning, we made extra. Fucking bagel day. The partners decided to move all the saturday bagels/lunches to Fridays so ppl can work at home, so I get to be tortured.
2022.01.24
Day 7
184.2
10 pounds down in week 1!! Off to a great start. Quitting the energy drinks simultaneously is helping too, I think.
2022.01.26
Day 9
183.6
Too busy yesterday to check in. Tax season, balls to the wall. Had a little slowdown in weight loss yesterday, looks like I’m coming into the ½ pound a day period already. Would be okay-er with this if I wasn’t still so hungry.
Definitely feeling clearer and more energetic. No more mid-afternoon slump. I was able to get a LOT done yesterday, just a little headachey in the afternoon.
Need to start thinking about my goals for when this fast is ended. This is just a jump-start; where do I want to step next in order to reach my 5, 10, 20 year goals?
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Obviously, the booze is a big problem. It keeps insidiously creeping its way back in, and my weight has suffered for it.
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Do I want to do a specific diet? IF? Keto sucks for me, I always overdo the fat. More veg in my diet? Whole foods for the whole family and the usual junk they normally eat, mostly whole for me and a little bit of junk, and vice versa for them, I think. Overthinking this step has always led to disappointment. Need to find the Middle Way.
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This is a whole life reset. New home, new routines, new lifestyle, eating habits, cutting bad habits. I NEED to see this to completion to fully reap these benefits.
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If I lose a half a pound per day from here on out, by April 15th I should weigh… holy shit. 139. That’s like 10 pounds heavier than NAIA.
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It’s easy to fast for days on end, but it takes a lot of discipline to have adequate refeeds. Being disciplined is #1 to maintain the fat loss.
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So, commitment:
- 90% whole, real foods - more fish, veggies, whole grains: think mediterranean.
- Sugar on treat days (2-3 days/week max)
- Booze as rarely as possible, if at all (we’ll see where my head is at in 2.5 months)
- Fast through breakfast every day, lunch and dinner only
DIET:
Mediterranean –> REAL FOOD
Fish
Nuts
Beans
Poultry
Olive oil
Whole grains
Control portions!
Dairy in moderation
Avoid processed foods
Fruits for dessert (guss it up! Make it gooooood)
Eat at the table when you can. Make your plate smaller.
2022.01.28
Day 11
182.6
Friday. Not excited. Too much to do this weekend. Can’t chill.
2022.01.31
Day 14
180.2
The weekend was actually great. We did EVERYTHING; painted the living room, sold the old couch, picked up the new ones, almost completely finished that area (just need accent color - swatches arrive this week). It was amazing. Got the bookshelves into the green room, set up the new shelving system in the laundry room, made pizza from scratch plus a pork loin… I was killing it. Rose came by to see it too. Had a bit of a booze craving Saturday night, but nothing too bad. Just missing the “relaxation”/fun aspect of it.
More to come.